I’ve been away from this blog for a bit…all good intentions to write, and then something inevitably comes up.
Life has a way of kicking you when you’re down. I’m not sure if any can relate, but it seems that things happen, and it’s not fair. Like maybe you were in the wrong, but you got hurt and are now being penalized for it? This just happened to my daughter. She got hurt, but she’s the one who has to pay, and ultimately so do we as a family.
But as Bill Gates said; “Life is not fair; get used to it”. Life plays no favourites, that is sure.
When something bad happens to a member of your family, the most natural thing is to hide and/or not tell anyone. For me, it’s about being alone, staying at home and just not being around people, especially my friends. My daughter had planned to go to a movie with her friends today, but informed me she was no longer going. I asked why, and she told me that she doesn’t want to talk about it and wants it all to go away. It also makes me incredibly angry, that all the blame seems to shift one way, when it should clearly be shared. That’s a tough pill to swallow, and I remind myself to be the better person. I stumbled upon this quote this morning and it gives me hope: my girl IS the better person here, and she will overcome this. I encouraged her that going out with friends is probably the BEST way to not think about what happened and the first steps to moving beyond it.
But wait a minute. As I’m telling her to go out with her friends, I myself just want to go home after work and not see or talk to anyone. Well thank God for friends…tonight is my monthly wine tasting with fellow classmates, and it’s one of the nights every month I really look forward to. And life must be pretty bad for me to want to miss a tasting of Southern Italy! Yup, not only my favourite country, but some of the grapes I love the most as well, and I am willing to miss it because I feel bad for my daughter and for myself? The show must go on, life goes on, so yes…I will go and taste some (I’m sure) amazing wines along with my fave(Nerello Mascalese) being included in the lineup.
Later today, my girl is going to the movies with her friends, and maybe even a sleepover too. Yes, life goes on, and so must we.